Swingers Not Just On Playgrounds Anymore :: essays research papers

Swingers Not Just on Playgrounds AnymoreDaves marriage had hit the rocks. His wife had lost interest in sex,and Dave did not know how to deal with it. He did not know whether she wasbored with him or simply bored with sex. In his search for an answer Dave andhis wife attended a swingers party. This would eventually end Daves marriage, just now it would also lead him to greener pastures.     "She did not want to share the lifestyle with me, and sharing is animportant part of swinging. Swingers swing to enhance the relationship withtheir mate, not to destroy it," Dave said.     Dave met his blink of an eye wife more than 15 years ago at a swingers party.The couple has now turned their lifestyle into their business. For thepast nine years Dave and his wife forenoon have run their own swing club in theChicago suburbs.     "We own Couples Choice, and though its listed as a swing club its alot more social than peop le imagine," Dave said.     This socialness includes dances, special theme parties, dinners andvacations. The couples who attend are also interested in learning aboutrelationships, meeting unseasoned friends and for exposure to something new. One ofthe most common misconceptions is that people come just to have sex. However,this is an option at Dave and Dawns club. Their club is known as an on-siteclub. This means that Dave and Dawn provide bedrooms for their members have it awayment.     "Ours is an on-premise club. We have bedrooms where sex does take place,but only if it is consensual. We do not force our activities on anyone," Davesaid.     Dave adds that having sex is something most people associate with aswing club, but often this is not true.Bob McGinley, whose self-given title is the grandfather of swing,believes many people have misconceptions about swinging. He says swingingcannot be categorise as ma te swapping or as group sex. In fact McGinleybelieves swinging cannot be put into a category at all.     "Putting a label on the activity is wrong. People call us swingersbecause we have sex with someone other than our mate, but you dont call someonea tenniser because they enjoy hitting a ball over a net. Someone involved inswinging is also involved in many other things . . . its very unfair to labelthat person a swinger," McGinley said.     McGinley has been involved in the swinging lifestyle since 1969. He hassince founded Lifestyles Organization in Anaheim, Calif. His organization holdsa swing conventionalism every year and this year he expects more than 3,000 to attend.